Respect pregnant women
And where have the life principles about respect for elders, the need to help a weak person and not offend someone who is younger gone? Every person has probably observed a situation where a pregnant woman is not given a seat on the subway or on a bus. People, both sitting and sitting, simply look away to the side.
As the expectant mothers themselves say, it is not so much hard for them to stand, but rather a shame for those people who are so indifferent to women in their position. And it’s even more offensive when a clumsy pregnant woman is overtaken by young people and take, rather than give up, their place. Of course, the woman cannot ignore this moment; she stands and holds back her tears. And where, if not at home, can she throw out her negative emotions, which often develop into hysterics, tears and whims.
The advice for an expectant mother in such a situation is simple. A woman needs to take with her a fascinating book that will relieve unnecessary worries. When she is interested in the contents of the book, she will not notice how quickly time passes, and very soon she will be at the desired stop.
There was such a case with one pregnant woman who was already heavily pregnant. All the seats on the bus were occupied and she didn’t get it. Then, she stood next to the young couple. The girl just looked, and then said quietly to her boyfriend: “Maybe you can give her a seat. Look at that belly!” He turned around and said: “So what, I have a big belly too!” They never gave up their place to her.
Not every person pays attention to a woman in position and not everyone responds to help either. Simply, you need to take the initiative into your own hands and politely ask the person to give up his seat. After all, this way you won’t have to be nervous and angry at others. For the sake of yourself and your baby, it is worth learning to ask for help and respond to kindness with gratitude.
Why pregnant women shouldn't be nervous
Thinking about the baby’s health, the expectant mother, through an effort of will, changes not only her taste preferences, but also her lifestyle. All information sources that carry “blackness” and can lead you out of a calm state should now not be present in your life. Shocking news raises blood pressure not only in the mother, but also in the fetus. The baby’s heart in the womb begins to beat faster, the blood circulates faster, and the baby may not have enough oxygen dissolved in the blood. A baby born with congenital asthma is the result of the mother’s improper behavior during pregnancy.
Children whose mothers were constantly nervous and were involved in stressful and crisis situations are characterized by increased excitability, they are anxious, sleep and eat poorly, and at an older age their aggressive attitude towards the world increases.
Scientists have recently found that children born in a calm environment are never fat. But laughter is useful at any stage, as it increases the level of dopamine, the joy hormone that fights stress, reduces the level of aggressiveness and somewhat reduces appetite. To switch to the positive, do what you love: weaving, growing indoor plants, caring for pets.
Positive effects of music on pregnancy
To restore internal balance, you can use auto-training, listen to classical music, and when faced with a stressful situation, take a break, counting to 10 - this way the level of response is significantly reduced, the blood does not rush to the face, thoughts come into order, and the woman continues to be in a state peace and tranquility. In the evening, aromatic oils (rose, patchouli, ylang-ylang), a few drops of which can be poured into the bath, will help you calm down and fall asleep faster. Overly excitable women are prescribed mild sedatives at night. For example, glycine or valerian in tablets are wonderfully soothing, and in combination with warm drinks with the addition of a spoon of honey, they make for a sound night's sleep.
The wife became obstinate
If a woman is not satisfied with her husband’s behavior, the way he cooks in the kitchen, washes the dishes, and cleans the apartment, then this does not indicate her malicious character, but that she is pregnant. It is because of hormones that she finds fault with her husband and finds flaws in him, causing scandals even out of nowhere.
If a man calmly reacts to the current situation, taking into account all the whims of his wife, linking this with her pregnancy, then she herself will soon calm down. And if a man comes into conflict with her, he will only make the situation worse.
Of course, there is no need to agree with your wife, so as not to thereby provoke aggression and provoke an urgent conflict in the relationship. Some men prefer to assent and nod their heads, adding the phrase: “Well, you’re right about everything again!” And the woman at this moment becomes even more nervous and angry with him. It’s much easier to hug your spouse and tell her how much he loves her, even such a harmful one.” And immediately everything will change for the better.
A woman always requires the care and attention of her man, and a pregnant woman especially. She believes that now her husband should carry her in his arms and love her even more. And when, in the woman’s opinion, this does not happen, she gets offended, which is why family quarrels arise.
Sometimes a woman is offended and unreasonably nervous, but it also happens that a man does not show due attention to his wife. For example, he never asks how she feels and whether she needs his help. And in the long term, she may really need his help if, for example, it is difficult for her to unfasten the locks on her boots due to her large belly. Indeed, this can be very difficult. And the woman will be more pleased if he himself shows signs of attention and takes care of his beloved wife without reminders.
A man should think about how he behaves. If he at least says: “You can’t carry heavy things,” snatching large bags or a watering can from her hands, preferring this task to himself, the woman will naturally be pleased. And if on a cool evening, he also carefully throws his warm jacket over her shoulders, will she be such an obstinate wife as she seems to her husband? Of course not. She will dissolve in his warm and gentle hands, forgetting about all her grievances and claims. It is with affection and love that you can extinguish the storm of impulsive emotions.
The wife needs to awaken responsibility in her husband by telling him as much as possible about her pregnancy and allowing him to touch his belly. After all, he will have the opportunity to feel with his hand how the baby kicks. Dads, just like mothers, can talk to their baby. A man should develop an attachment, and only then, without hesitation, he will stroke and kiss his belly and listen to what he is doing there.
Relationships with mother-in-law
If a wife can come to an agreement with her husband by handing him a shopping list, this will not work with her mother-in-law. It often happens that a mother-in-law is looking forward to grandchildren with great desire, but hates her son’s wife. That is, in fact, she hates the one who gives her this happiness - to become a grandmother.
If the mother-in-law does not support and does not want to help her daughter-in-law with anything, then you should think about separate housing, since later, when the child is born, it will be even worse.
You can’t live with your husband’s mother, who doesn’t like him, even hoping that with the birth of the baby, the mother-in-law will change. You can’t change such people, and after giving birth, even more complaints arise on her part.
After all, everyone has long known that a newborn baby takes up a lot of mommy’s time. And naturally, she doesn’t have time to cook food, clean the house, not to mention washed and ironed diapers. And the mother-in-law, instead of blaming her daughter-in-law, should offer her her help. But more often the daughter-in-law may hear that she is a bad mother and a wife who does not know how to do anything. The mother-in-law accuses her daughter-in-law of not having time to prepare food, which means she does not have time to feed her hungry husband, who will soon return from work. She can also reprimand her about the unironed diapers for the baby. And the daughter-in-law’s unbearable fatigue, when she just desperately wants to sleep, she perceives as laziness.
The husband comes only in the evening, and she has to stay alone with this woman. The worst thing is when a husband does not intervene in the conflict between his wife and mother. Of course, the husband must support his wife, she simply really needs it. Not only does she get tired during the day from the baby and all the troubles that have fallen on her shoulders, she also has to listen to her grumpy mother-in-law. And this is doubly difficult.
Of course, it is very difficult for two housewives to get along in one house. Often a mother is jealous of her son towards his wife. After all, before he loved only her and always consulted with her. Now, there is no such need.
The mother-in-law begins to reproach and find fault with her daughter-in-law, speaks badly about her to her son, imposing her opinion on him. But the daughter-in-law should also think about the fact that before entering someone else’s house, she should not arrange her own rules and offer her own conditions. She will still have to live by the rules that are observed in this house.
Thus, the struggle for one man manifests itself. Only the daughter-in-law needs to convey to her mother-in-law that she is not a rival, but also loves this person no less than her. If the mother-in-law loves him like a son and he will always be her son, no one takes him away from her, then the daughter-in-law, in turn, will love him like a husband. After all, his mother-in-law did not give birth to him so that he would be unhappy and protect his mother all his life. And what’s wrong with the fact that they both love him very much now?...
A wise daughter-in-law would rather laugh off her mother-in-law’s unfair remark than engage in further meaningless conversation. It will just be enough to tell your mother-in-law: “That’s it, you know, Zinaida Petrovna. Better tell me where the jar of cherry jam is. Put on the kettle, let’s drink tea!” And if you always follow such an action, then relations with your mother-in-law will certainly begin to improve.
If the daughter-in-law is very observant, she will notice how the pillows lie on the tucked sofa. And if next time she wants to arrange the pillows on the sofa herself, as her mother-in-law does, then she will appreciate her action, and who knows what good friends they can become if the daughter-in-law is able to please her mother-in-law more than once.
Safe sedatives for pregnant women
Glycine
Glycine is an amino acid found in many foods and medicines.
This drug normalizes the processes of inhibition and excitation in the central nervous system by normalizing the levels of calcium and potassium in the body. Glycine is sold in the form of tablets and powder; it begins to have a therapeutic effect on average a week after the start of administration. Thanks to its properties, glycine helps improve sleep, develop mental abilities, and relieve anxiety and restlessness. Some studies show that the drug reduces hyperactivity in the brain and even plays a role in the treatment and prevention of mental disorders. Other evidence suggests that taking glycine and supplements together reduces the risk of stroke and seizures.
The use of glycine during pregnancy should occur strictly after consultation with a specialist, since there are no reliable studies on its safe effect on pregnancy. Despite the fact that the amino acid is part of many foods and is naturally reproduced by the human body, it is possible that in the form of a medicine it may differ from the biological species. There is also the possibility that medications containing glycine may contain other excipients that are unsafe for use during pregnancy.
Motherwort
Active ingredients and substances: the plant contains alkaloids, flavonoids, iridoids, tannins (5-9%), terpenoids, citric acid, malic acid, oleic acid, choline and phenol glycoside.
Motherwort is an effective remedy in the fight against psycho-emotional stress: it lowers blood pressure and improves heart function. However, pharmaceutical forms of the drug in the form of tablets and infusions are prohibited sedatives during pregnancy, since they contain substances harmful to the fetus. Expectant mothers are recommended to use only motherwort teas and decoctions, which must be made from pure herbs without impurities.
In addition to its calming effect, motherwort helps cope with stress and anxiety, cleanses the blood of excess fat and lowers blood pressure. The use of a decoction of the plant is prescribed for multiple sclerosis, chronic fatigue, neuralgia, hypothyroidism and insomnia. The herb also has a mild diuretic and antibacterial effect.
Melissa officinalis
Melissa officinalis is a perennial herb with a distinct lemon flavor. For a long time, its leaves have been used to make infusions and added to teas and medicines. Experts advise using lemon balm for digestive problems (indigestion, bloating, flatulence and colic), headaches or toothaches, mental disorders or frequent insomnia.
One of the advantages of lemon balm is the absence of contraindications for use in pregnant women. The plant has the ability to stimulate sleep, relax the body and have a calming effect, preventing the occurrence of the main unpleasant symptoms of pregnancy.
Doctors do not recommend consuming lemon balm for a long time and use it in small quantities: 2-3 cups of brewed plant leaves per day for 1 week. Too frequent consumption may cause side effects such as dizziness, vomiting and nausea. Before starting use, you should consult your doctor.
Valerian
Sedatives during pregnancy based on valerian extract should not contain ethyl alcohol, therefore tablets and decoctions with this active substance are recommended for expectant mothers, while taking the infusion form is strictly prohibited. Valerian preparations improve sleep, relieve headaches, stimulate heart function and excessive stimulation of the central nervous system. The sedative effect of the drug occurs a few days after the start of use. When using valerian in tablet form, you need to carefully monitor the dosage.
Novo-Passit
Novo-Passit is a sedative for pregnant women in the second trimester and later. This drug contains herbal components: extracts of valerian, lemon balm, St. John's wort, hawthorn, passionflower, hops and elderberry. It has a depressant effect on the central nervous system, improves sleep, and has a beneficial effect on heart function. Available in the form of syrup and tablets, the 2nd form of the drug is recommended for pregnant women, since it does not contain alcohol.
Attention!
Although many sedatives are considered safe for pregnant women, you should consult your doctor before using them, as some medications have contraindications, specific dosages, and recommended duration of therapy.
Persen
Persen is a combined herbal preparation containing extracts of mint, lemon balm and valerian. Sold in tablet form. Persen has a sedative effect, relieves insomnia, and improves heart function. Not recommended for use in early gestation.
Validol
Validol, in addition to its beneficial dilating effect on the blood vessels of the heart, also has a sedative effect. It causes depression of the central nervous system, improves sleep and normalizes the psyche. This drug is available in the form of drops, capsules and tablets; the latter form of release is recommended for expectant mothers. However, it is worth considering that Validol is prohibited for use in the 1st trimester and for persons with low blood pressure.
Magne B6
Magne B6, as the name suggests, contains magnesium and vitamin B6. This drug is available in the form of tablets and powder for solution. Magne B6 activates the normal functioning of the nervous system, thereby having a beneficial effect on the mental state. The drug also has a positive effect on the intestines, heart and muscles. Pregnant women are recommended to use this drug only for strict indications.
Need to do something useful
But it also happens that a pregnant woman is satisfied with her beloved husband and wonderful mother-in-law, but she will definitely have a reason to start getting nervous and be offended by someone. This could be some relatives, best friend, or just a neighbor. After all, a pregnant woman can be irritated by absolutely any circumstances: rainy weather, cramped apartment, etc.
First of all, a woman should keep herself busy with something so as not to be distracted by completely unnecessary thoughts. She can cook something delicious that she has never cooked before or do something creative. Of course, this will benefit her. Moreover, positive emotions will be useful not only for her, but also for the baby.
No wonder they say that a pregnant woman becomes a little stupider. She really behaves like a child, only those around her continue to communicate with her as equals.
If someone offended the expectant mother and upset her in some way, do not be nervous and take everything to heart. After all, all these experiences will not benefit either the woman or her child. At such moments, you need to distance yourself from everything negative and communicate more with your husband and your baby.
The influence of nerves on the condition of mother and baby
Excessive nervousness during pregnancy can provoke unpredictable consequences. It is especially dangerous to be nervous after 20 weeks.
- Constant stress can cause fetal hypoxia, which is life-threatening for the baby.
- Also, according to the doctor, if the expectant mother is nervous all the time, then she risks giving birth to a child with underweight or lung disease.
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- In addition, an unstable emotional state can cause hyperactivity and anxiety in her child. Such children often suffer from sleep-wake disturbances.
This is what constant stress and worry can lead to and why pregnant women shouldn’t be nervous.
