If your child doesn’t want to go to bed in the evening...

Common causes of moodiness before bed

The solution to the problem of tantrums before bedtime in a child will depend on the causes of such manifestations.

1. The desire to attract attention—indulgence in manipulation—will form a hysterical model of behavior, which the child will consider the norm and apply everywhere.
2. Copying the behavioral reactions of parents - the child repeats after adults their behavior in a stressful situation.
3. Fears - a child may be afraid of the dark or being alone. Leaving such a child alone in a room with the lights off and not reacting to hysterics is strictly prohibited. This way you will form a stable phobia, which will provoke further mental deviations and inhibit development.
4. The baby feels bad, he is sick or has just suffered from an illness.
5. Feeling of discomfort - perhaps sleepwear restricts his movements, pricks, rubs.
6. Nervous disorders as a result of trauma during childbirth.

Parents' actions to stop hysteria should also be age-appropriate. It is important to understand that the baby has not yet mastered all the rules of communication and is not able to express his emotions and desires other than throwing a tantrum.

A child gets hysterical before going to bed when he has received a lot of emotions during the day. A large flow of information does not allow the brain to relax; it is in an active state and does not want to turn off. Children aged 3 years begin to undergo mental restructuring. They painfully experience conflict situations that are associated with prohibitions, because they do not understand why they cannot immediately get what they want.

Calming the baby

In infancy, children actively grow, gain weight, develop their skills, and learn about the world around them outside their mother’s tummy. Quality sleep for babies is the key to good health. The most active development occurs in sleep. The baby gets tired quickly. A newborn baby feels tired after just 1 hour of being awake.

Hysterics before bedtime in infants can occur for several reasons: the desire to eat, drink, fatigue, pain, discomfort.

An insufficiently rested baby is capricious and whiny. In children under one year old, active formation of behavioral reactions occurs. If during this period of time the parents do not accustom the baby to the regime, then his behavior will not change even by 2-3 years.

Dream interpretation of a newborn:

Such sleep standards are relative, but they are still worth adhering to so that the baby feels good and comfortable.

If a child cries before bed, and the reasons are discomfort or fatigue, change his clothes and hold him in his arms. The mother's heartbeat will quickly calm the baby and he will fall asleep.

To calm your baby, pick him up

It is better to swaddle a newborn baby 2-3 days old at night. This will help him feel like he is in his mother's tummy.

Babies may wake up during the night and then go back to sleep. They begin sleeping through the night at 8 months. Develop a special regime and strictly follow it.

Every mother should learn tips on a daily routine for a baby that allows them to settle down without tantrums.

1. Monitor your waking hours - a 3-month-old child gets tired in 2 hours, i.e. after such a period of time he needs to be put to rest.
2. Teach yourself to spend time actively during the day. Hyperactive children continue to have a tendency to play even in a dark room. In the evening, switch to quiet games, wash your baby in a lavender bath and turn off all the appliances in the house to signal that it is time to go to bed.
3. Don't be with your baby all the time. At 6-8 months, the child should already enter a state of sleep on his own.
4. Avoid rocking - over time, this process becomes a habit and the child will no longer be able to fall asleep without it.

How do you know if this is precisely the reason why your child cannot fall asleep?

The period of wakefulness in babies differs depending on their age. Check out the table that shows the average amount of waking time for different ages.

It is important to note that at 6.5 - 7 months and 8 - 10 months, some children may be more awake if they have switched to fewer naps. And that's completely normal. The capabilities of the child’s nervous system are determined by the time he is awake. If the baby has not fallen asleep by the end of his time awake (WW), then it becomes extremely difficult for him to control himself, because the nervous system cannot cope with the load.

This is why babies may become hysterical before bedtime.

The second reason for hysteria

Let's say you monitor your baby's daily sleep patterns, track WB, but before bedtime he is not at all in the mood to sleep.

How to help in these cases? As I said before, this could be because the baby is too excited. Before putting your child to bed, you need to let him calm down, create a favorable atmosphere so that the child is not distracted by any unnecessary sounds. This is called Calm Wakefulness .

Agree with your loved ones and older children so that they do not forget to help you organize quiet wakefulness (SW). You should not watch cartoons with your child an hour before bedtime or play active toys with him, because these activities only increase the child’s activity.

Active wakefulness is any physical and strong emotional stress. And we will include bathing here (especially if the baby is active in the bathroom), massage, and running and dying on the street before bedtime, also in active wakefulness (AB).

The process of going to bed is an indicator of whether you were awake enough, whether you filled your waking hours well, whether there was enough activity and quiet wakefulness. And how long the baby slept after going to bed will also be an indicator of how your wakefulness went.

And there are more than 20 reasons that can really influence the fact that the child finds it difficult to settle down, resists laying down, and lengthens the laying down.

For example: someone sleeps for 40 minutes and goes to bed for 1.5 hours or goes to bed for 2 hours, but the child slept for 10 minutes and woke up not in the mood and you are not in the mood because everyone is feeling bad: you because you They planned something, but for the baby, because he didn’t get enough sleep.

Someone suffers with resistance for a long time and persistently, although this is work for 3-5 days. Seriously. These are exactly the statistics of work on the “ SLEEP PASSPORT ” course.

If the task is also to eliminate frequent night awakenings, then this is already a “ BABY’S SLEEP ” course; we won’t have time to work with associations in a week.

Calming a 2 year old child

Hysteria before bed in a 2-year-old child is often associated with overtiredness and changes in weather. On bad evenings, many babies have difficulty going to bed, but there are other factors - fear of nightmares, fantasies about night monsters. In such cases, it is better to consult a doctor.

Otherwise, the following rules should be observed:

• follow the regime;
• play only during the day;
• Don’t turn on cartoons before bed—it’s better to read a calm fairy tale;
• do not scare your child with old jokes, Baba Yaga, and other fictional characters;
• For the nursery, choose warm, soothing colors.

Before going to bed, perform certain actions that will become a kind of ritual, a hint that it’s time to rest. The baby will get used to this and will calmly go to bed. After taking a soothing bath, you can sing a song together or read a story to your baby. Turn on a night light in the room.

Calming a 3 year old child

After a long day, the baby is exhausted. He has accumulated a lot of important information that he is eager to share with the person closest to him. The age of 3 is associated with psychological adjustment and entry into kindergarten. While adaptation in the group is taking place, children often suffer from colds. This is a strong blow to an unstable nervous system.

Talk to your baby before bed. Pay attention to his problems. Show that they are important to you too, share some of your experiences. If a 3-year-old child is hysterical before bed, speak calmly and confidently. Try to distract him, turn his attention to a book, a fairy tale, try to agree to put a soft toy to bed, and then him.

Confidential conversations with your baby are very important. If you do not attach importance to his problems, then internal torment will result in nightmares, and in the morning the child will be lethargic and aggressive. A 3-year-old child who is hysterical due to nightmares must be calmed down. If your baby cries without opening his eyes, wake him up and calm him down. Nightmares can be triggered by a late dinner. Don't let your baby eat a lot before going to bed. Offer kefir or yogurt with cookies.

Confidential conversation is the key to a stable emotional state of a child

If a child requires a toy for proper sleep, you should not prohibit him from doing so. As he gets older, he will gradually give up this habit.

Daytime nap

Why do children throw tantrums before naptime? Daytime rest doesn't seem to cause as many problems as nighttime rest. But this happens.

Children must rest, otherwise the second half of the day will pass with pampering and whims. Mom can get things done during this time.

Children gradually grow out of daytime sleep. This can happen at any age. There's nothing you can do about it. Daytime sleep is compensated by increasing the duration of nighttime sleep. If you don’t get up early in the morning to go to the garden, that will suit everyone.

If you want to maintain daytime rest, you need to reconsider the regime:

• You need to get your child up earlier in the morning. Then by lunchtime the child will definitely want to sleep.
• It is recommended to take a long and active walk in the fresh air before lunch. Lunch break should not be later than 13:00. Otherwise, overexcitation may occur and the baby will not rest. Laying should not be delayed; leave all manipulations overnight. You should just put the child down and leave.

There should be no fears in daytime sleep, since there is no darkness. But if the baby is tormented by fears even during daytime sleep, then you should consult a neurologist. Daytime naps are shorter, so your baby may boycott them. But it is necessary for both parents and children.

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2 comments

1. Veronica The bedroom and bed should not become a kind of punishment place for a child. Our girl’s bedroom is the area where her favorite toys rest. The girl arranges her sleeping toys herself and sleeps with them.

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2. Marina At the age of 3, when my son was replaced, he began to throw tantrums day and night, apparently the same crisis covered 3 years. Vitamins “Baby Formula Bear Calmness” from Evalar, which in addition to vitamins glycine, mint and lemon balm, helped him improve his sleep and calm down, and he generally thought it was candy and ate it with pleasure.

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Calming a child with natal trauma

The causes of hysteria before bedtime in a child may lie in the characteristics of the nervous system. Many babies who have been traumatized during childbirth cannot go to bed without hysterics. In such cases, it is necessary to contact a pediatric neurologist and take a course of the necessary medications.

All this must be done within 12 months. During this period, you will be able to restore the baby’s body as much as possible and help him develop correctly. Typically, such children are prescribed Glycine at night in a minimal dosage, which is selected by the doctor, and baths with lavender oil. It is advisable to clean rooms using soothing essential oil.

Don't delay visiting your doctor if you have had a difficult birth. Children with a nervous disorder can be distinguished by their behavior: they sleep little during the day - 15 minutes at a time, often scream angrily, hold their heads poorly, and eat very greedily.

Prohibited tricks

1. If your child throws a tantrum before bed, don't scold him. The more you scream, the more hysterical you will become.
2. Don't spank your baby.
3. Do not set time limits - the child still does not perceive them.
4. Before going to bed, do not turn on programs and films intended for adults. The information may frighten the baby and he will not be able to sleep.

You can put your child to sleep without hysterics only by remaining completely calm. Draw up an action plan if you notice such reactions occurring regularly. Create a sleep/wake and feeding schedule. Avoid feeding on demand - this exhausts both the baby and the mother. Hysteria before bedtime in a 2-3 year old child can be stopped using almost the same methods. The only difference is that the baby already has some communication skills and is able to more clearly express his desires. Talk to your child and help him sort out the problems. Do not scold the child, but try to understand the reasons for his behavior.

What should you not do?

The following actions are strictly not recommended:

• Set time limits for the baby.
• Scream and swear at your little one if he can’t sleep.
• Parents need to be calm and balanced themselves, then the baby will be calm and fall asleep faster.
• It is forbidden to watch TV before going to bed, and even more so, some adult programs, films, news. This can overly excite a fragile child’s nervous system, then there will be excitement, fear, and hysterics.