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Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem

As a rule, people who lack self-confidence are easily recognized by their external signs. They usually exhibit the following qualities.

Constant indecision, which is associated with the fear of making a mistake.
Passionate desire to please in order to fit into the team and feel a sense of belonging to the group.
At the same time, hostility towards others and envy of others' successes appears.
Pathological jealousy. Moreover, destructive feelings can arise not only towards a partner, but also towards friends.

Also, low self-esteem is revealed by the manner of speech. How does this manifest itself?

Notes of a negative worldview and pessimism may creep into the conversation.
Excessive self-criticism. A person constantly mentions his shortcomings and the fact that he is not satisfied with himself.
People with low self-esteem take a defensive position in conversations and always look for excuses for their actions, even without obvious reasons. This usually looks like an excuse to yourself.
There is a dependence on the opinions of others and a negative attitude towards criticism addressed to oneself. Moreover, even any phrase of the interlocutor can be interpreted as a claim or insult.

The role of self-esteem in our lives

Self-esteem reflects your idea of your own strengths and weaknesses and plays a leading role in relationships with others. A self-confident person always has a wider social circle, as he radiates special positive energy. It is easier for such people to overcome life's difficulties and achieve their goals.

Relationships in the family, at work, in society directly depend on your sense of self. By following the lead of your fear, indecision and uncertainty, you are programming yourself for failure. You knowingly deprive yourself of victories, prospects and achievements.

Correct self-esteem gives a person the opportunity to make decisions based on their own beliefs and desires. Do not depend on the opinions of others. Be confident in your own choice. Don't stop there and strive for success.
Society has a great influence on the self-esteem of every person. Upbringing in a family, communication with peers, friends and colleagues either lowers or increases our opinion of ourselves.
Real self-esteem should be built on your own abilities and skills. You need to be able to accept your shortcomings and increase your strengths.

Self-esteem must be real

Reveal your best sides to society, receive praise for your successes. Any normal person strives to choose friends and interlocutors among self-sufficient people.
Underestimating their capabilities prevents people from living fully. Inflated ambitions often lead to multiple mistakes. In both cases, the person refuses to perceive his real self.
Low self-esteem can quickly turn into high self-esteem and vice versa.

In modern society, low self-esteem has become a common problem. Let's consider several effective recommendations that, if followed, will help you reconsider your attitude towards yourself and improve your quality of life.

Causes

Behavior patterns

The child copies the behavior patterns of significant adults, in particular, parents or those who raise him. He simply has nowhere to follow an example while he is very small. And the adult seems to him to be knowledgeable; against the background of unconditional trust, the child may perceive even some kind of physical violence as the norm, that this is how it should be.

So, if at least one parent does not behave quite correctly in relation to others, for example, does not listen, constantly criticizes and teaches, such a style of communication can be “intercepted” by the child.

In general, if a person is divorced from reality and extols his own person, then disruptions in self-esteem can also occur in those with whom he is close. Most often this is a decrease in confidence, but, as already mentioned, if the adult is an authority figure, the child will repeat after him.

The only one in the family

The order in which children are born has an impact on their character and relationships. So to speak, sibling rivalry arises.

But no less difficulties arise for the one who turns out to be the only one in the family. Especially if it was late, very desirable. He gets used to the attention that is paid only to him, which is fertile ground for the development of egoism and egocentrism.

Parents are not always able to adequately evaluate him, that is, they most often praise him with or without reason, which distorts the perception of his qualities and skills.

Demandingness

Parents project their desires onto their children, expecting them to be more developed, successful and happy. This is basically normal. But sometimes they don’t just want it, they actually demand perfection, focusing only on achievements, completely ignoring the personality of their child.

Why, wanting to receive at least a little parental love, such a little man will strive to be better everywhere, at least to seem so.

He has the idea that people around him will be able to appreciate and notice him if he is perfect and always comes first. And she will desperately try to occupy him, no matter what the cost.

Comparison with others

Sometimes wanting to motivate a child to achieve, adults use comparisons with the children of their friends, classmates, etc. But, contrary to expectations, this method works completely differently. Basically it lowers self-esteem.

It is difficult to have a good opinion of yourself when the closest and dearest person not only admires the other, but also directly declares that he is better and that this is the kind of daughter or son he would like. To him, such comparisons sound like rejection.

That is, I don’t just say that the other child is great and deserves respect, but I emphasize that you are not like that at all. Like if you become just a little bit like him, maybe I'll have more reasons to love you. And parental love is, in fact, unconditional. It seems like there should be.

So, some enter into active competition, wanting to please their parents. Then their self-esteem does not decrease, but, on the contrary, increases. Only excessively, also not being entirely adequate and real.

You have to really “inflate” your characteristics. Showing that it is no worse than the others, and even on the contrary, it does not exist more beautiful.

These are the most common causes of problems in self-perception. Sometimes they seem so insignificant that they imperceptibly influence a person, quite organically changing her attitude towards life and other people.

Psychology of high self-esteem: signs, consequences

Self-esteem is a measure of a person’s perception of his own personal qualities, strengths and capabilities, external and internal data. The effectiveness of one’s existence in modern society, a person’s psychology, his material realization, and interaction with other people directly depend on self-esteem. What can happen if perception itself creates a picture for the subconscious that is much better than it is in real life? Psychology will tell you what this means.

A distorted perception of one's own capabilities can make a person rude, arrogant, and arrogant. The inability to determine your own potential leads to failure in your endeavors, failures and disappointments. The result of the work of a person with high self-esteem is often a lack of public recognition, and as a result, a depressive state.

In order to understand the consequences and extent of the problematic nature of a person’s inflated self-esteem, you need to understand the reasons for its appearance.

The reasons for such psychological violations can be childhood fears and psychological trauma, an inferiority complex, frequent indulgence of parents to all the desires of the child, excessive guardianship, social conditions in which there is no sense of healthy competition (for example, if you are the only girl in a team among men), wide popularity.

Inflated self-esteem, popularly referred to as narcissism, acts as excessive self-confidence, human psychology does not allow him to recognize the likelihood of his opponent being right, an obviously empty desire to reach an unattainable peak, a person does not recognize criticism, does not tolerate statements that do not coincide with his point of view. Such people rarely accept outside help; they try to hide mistakes and failures from prying eyes and accept defeats with desperate pain.

Signs of low self-esteem

Low self-perception has very specific symptoms:

constant self-criticism;
dissatisfaction with oneself;
excessive sensitivity to the opinions and criticism of other people;
feeling of anxiety, fear of making the wrong decision;
envy of other people's successes;
justifying one's own actions;
pessimism and negative attitude towards the world around us.

If you feel that problems and failures are your constant companions in life, if it seems to you that the decisions you are making are wrong, delve into the study of the topic - how to believe in yourself and increase self-esteem. Otherwise, emotional disorders and depression are possible.

Heightened self-esteem

Recently I saw this picture at a gas station. A new, tinted Audi pulled up. A boy of about eighteen got out of it. Very fashionable, wearing sunglasses. And with a lordly air he began to give instructions to the gas station employees. What do they need to do, where do they need to wipe. After it was refueled. With a careless gesture, he tossed fifty rubles for tea to the girl who was serving him and drove off.

It was clear from the guy that he was simply bursting with a sense of his own importance, which he strives to show always and everywhere. And from the outside one gets the impression of a confident, tough guy. They say about such people that they “caught star fever” or they say that the person has inflated self-esteem. He really comes across as an overconfident person who thinks very highly of himself.

But this is just an impression. In reality, I believe that there are no people with high self-esteem. In my opinion, this is a variant of unstable self-esteem. It’s just that a person, creating his own internal classification of people, somewhat incorrectly determined his place.

Very often, young people who project their parents’ successes onto themselves have inflated self-esteem. That is, money, connections, social status of parents, this is my status. Since a person considers the successes of his parents to be his successes, he finds a seme place in the classification, on the same level as his parents. Accordingly, he behaves as if he had reached such heights. At the same time, other people see the picture more objectively. And they rate him lower than he rates himself.

Therefore, a certain imbalance arises between how a person evaluates himself and how others evaluate him. And others get the impression that the person evaluates himself inadequately highly. That’s why the expression “inflated self-esteem” came into being. Although not all people understand this. Usually, around a person with high self-esteem, there are always people hanging around who are flattered by such a cool acquaintance.

Being actually in the roles of sixes, they use this connection to compensate for their insecurities. Well, it’s good for a star, there is always someone who admires you, who you can control and feel even more significant.

Small-amplitude oscillations occur, above the level of reality. Peaks of confidence with fantasies may or may not occur. Some people with high self-esteem are so beside themselves that they don't even have fantasies. Why fantasy if I already live like in a fairy tale.

But peaks of uncertainty are uncharacteristic for them. Because when faced with failure, they begin to look for the reasons for failure. And they are usually found either in other people or in external circumstances. And such an explanation helps maintain self-esteem. There is one notch in the graph of falling self-esteem. This can happen if a person is faced with a serious problem and fails, or receives condemnation from one of the small number of people whom he places above himself.

But this hole in self-esteem, as a rule, does not last long. The man quickly flies upward again. Since we have determined that high self-esteem is a variant of unstable self-esteem, then behavior towards other people will be the same as we described above. Only it can be in an even more exaggerated form. If a situation occurs in life in which one’s place in the classification changes, then the result is a change in the self-esteem graph.

Often self-esteem becomes typical for a person with unstable self-esteem. That is, peaks of uncertainty appear, accompanying tendencies towards depression. During which a person can abuse alcohol.

Self-esteem correction

The possibility of changing one's self-esteem towards a more adequate one worries many people. This is especially typical for mature and seemingly accomplished individuals, when a person realizes that an incorrect assessment of his strengths and capabilities prevents him from achieving success and has a negative impact on relationships with others.

Self-esteem can be corrected even independently, although in particularly advanced cases the help of a psychotherapist or psychological consultant is required. But it is easier to increase self-esteem than to reduce inadequately inflated ones. More precisely, there are conditions under which self-esteem decreases, but most often they are unpleasant and even traumatic for a person.

If an individual realized that he had an inadequately inflated self-esteem, it means that he was able to look at himself critically, and therefore, his self-esteem is not so inflated. In any case, he is already on the right track.

There are many tips for increasing self-esteem. But first you should figure out in what area you underestimate yourself. What don't you like most about yourself or what do you need to increase your self-esteem? Write down on a separate sheet in a column the main areas in which a person is realized:

relationships with people;
professional activity (or choice of profession);
appearance;
level of knowledge, intelligence;
hobbies;
family.

You can add something important to you yourself. Now rate your success in these areas on a 10-point scale. If the scores are slightly higher than 5 points, then your self-esteem is within the normal range, but you can improve it. And if it is significantly below 5, then special attention should be paid to this area.

Think about why you think you are unsuccessful in this area? What do you need to feel more confident, begin to respect yourself and even admire yourself? Write down on a separate sheet what you are missing. And start working to eliminate these shortcomings.

As you can see, nothing complicated. And if you would like a “magic pill” or a ready-made recipe, there are none. People are all different, our problems are also different. But you can give some general tips to increase self-esteem:

Stop comparing yourself to others. Remember, every person is unique, not better or worse, just different. And your advantage is that you are different from others.
Look around and try to see all the good and bright things. Stop, consolidate this feeling in your head and try not to allow negative thoughts anymore - they attract failures.
When starting any business, focus on success; defeat comes to those who wait for it.
Smile. A smile is a powerful tool that adjusts our state to positivity. But it is no less important that it motivates the people around us to appreciate us more highly.
Write down all your strengths on a piece of paper and re-read them often, especially when you feel insecure and afraid of failure.
Be more open. Don't hesitate to ask people for help and support.

To increase self-esteem, the approval and praise of others is very important. Therefore, find yourself a hobby or hobbies in which you can succeed, and do not be shy to demonstrate these successes. Draw, knit, cross-stitch, assemble pictures from plastic corks or photograph unusual clouds. And share your successes, seek praise. Nowadays, with the development of communication on social networks, this is not difficult to do.

How to deal with high self-esteem

To get rid of high self-esteem, you need to do a tremendous amount of work on yourself and have a strong desire to change for the better. A professional psychologist can help with this.

However, there are simple self-help methods:

Learn to take into account

During a conversation, you need to listen to your interlocutor and respect his point of view. Take criticism calmly and draw conclusions. If something doesn't happen the way you wanted, take responsibility rather than blaming someone else for the failure. It is important to learn to determine a person’s true attitude, to distinguish sincere praise from flattery. Before embarking on a risky project, it is necessary to evaluate all possible options for completing the work started. You should not start something new if you are not sure of the successful implementation of your plans. After the successful implementation of the project, you need to analyze and think about how you could achieve even better results. To improve, you need to treat yourself with a certain amount of self-criticism

Without this, it is impossible to lower self-esteem and make it adequate.

High self-esteem in children

Adequate self-esteem begins to form in early childhood, if during this period parents praise the child too often for everything he does and never cease to admire him.

This attitude leads to the fact that it is difficult for the child to find a common language with peers and to go through the stage of socialization in society.

When he gets into a team (kindergarten, school), it is difficult for him to come to terms with the fact that “he is one of all” and not “the best”. Such children are conflict-ridden and emotional. This situation can cause psychological trauma and the development of low self-esteem.

You can and should praise children, but it is important to do it correctly. You cannot praise a child in the following cases:

You cannot praise a child in the following cases:

for its external data: this is what is given by nature, and not created by a child;
if the child has achieved something without putting in any work;
for toys, books, clothes - they were bought or given to him, there is no merit in this.

High self-esteem in teenagers

The reason for adolescent high self-esteem is that the child wants to appear better than he is, to achieve recognition from acquaintances and friends.

Another basis for the formation of an incorrect assessment is narcissism, impunity, when parents continue to indulge an already adult child and exaggerate the scale of his achievements.

To develop healthy self-esteem in a teenager, psychologists advise adhering to the following recommendations:

Give the child a feeling of security, support, do not be shy to demonstrate your love, and at the same time stop strictly controlling and making them love you.
Learn to set realistic goals and achieve them step by step.
Don’t solve all the problems for the teenager, give him the opportunity to feel responsible for his actions and actions.
Teach your child discipline.
Praise for real achievements.
Make it clear that mistakes are normal: made once, they will provide the necessary experience and help get rid of mistakes in the future.

What is high self-esteem

What is high self-esteem? It refers to an individual’s overestimation of their own potential. In other words, a person thinks of himself as better than he really is. This is why they say that people with high self-esteem are often out of touch with reality. They evaluate themselves biasedly and most often notice shortcomings in others rather than advantages. To some extent, this can be associated with the individual’s reluctance to see the good in others, against the background of which they will notice their own shortcomings.

High self-esteem means seeing only your strengths, ignoring your shortcomings. At the same time, other people seem weak, stupid, underdeveloped. That is, a person sees exclusively other people’s shortcomings, not paying attention to the existing advantages.

However, not everything is so simple with high self-esteem. Its appeal lies in the fact that a person with such self-esteem experiences absolute self-confidence. He does not doubt himself, does not humiliate, does not suppress. He is confident in his own abilities - this is the positive side of high self-esteem.

The negative side can be:

Disregard for other people's opinions and interests of others.
Selfishness.
Overestimation of one's own strengths.

It is noted that high self-esteem, like low self-esteem, can plunge a person into a depressive state. This occurs when multiple failures occur. And a depressive state can be described as “I-, You-”, that is, a person sees bad things in himself and in others.

Self-esteem structure

In the structure of self-esteem, psychologists distinguish two components: cognitive and emotional:

The cognitive component (from the Latin cognition - knowledge) includes a person’s knowledge about himself, his abilities, skills, capabilities, weaknesses and strengths. This component is formed in the process of self-knowledge and largely affects the level of self-esteem. Inadequate self-esteem, as a rule, is associated either with ideas about one’s own “I” that do not correspond to reality, or with their unformedness.
The emotional component is the individual’s attitude towards himself and various manifestations of his own personality. The emotions that we experience towards ourselves are very contradictory: approval and disapproval, self-respect or lack thereof, love or rejection of ourselves.

The differences between these two components are purely theoretical; in real life they coexist in inextricable unity - our knowledge about our qualities is always emotionally charged.

Factors influencing the formation of self-esteem

Inadequate self-esteem is always bad; it creates discomfort and problems for both the person himself and his environment. But can an individual be blamed for having a wrong self-image? Under the influence of what is self-esteem formed?

Social factors

The foundations of self-esteem are laid in childhood, from the moment when the baby becomes aware of his “I” and begins to compare himself with other children and adults. But in preschool, and even at primary school age, children cannot yet adequately analyze their qualities and their behavior, therefore the evaluative sphere is formed entirely under the influence of adults. Remember how V. Mayakovsky wrote: “The little son came to his father, and the little one asked: “What is good?” And what is bad?

Therefore, it is the wrong actions of adults that give impetus to the formation of inadequate self-esteem. Here are some of them:

unfair or excessive punishments;
unreasonable and too frequent praise;
constant comparison of the child with other children to show his weaknesses, inability, disobedience;
the position of a “king” in the family or a favorite at school;
emphasizing and focusing the child’s attention on his failures and mistakes.

Child psychologists believe that, in general, praise and encouragement are more beneficial, while constant reprimands and punishments are harmful. The fact is that we experience negative emotions more strongly than positive ones. And unpleasant sensations are stored in memory longer and have a stronger impact on our behavior. This happened in the process of evolution.

The opinions of people around us have a great influence on the formation of self-esteem and of an adult, especially when it comes to socially significant people whose opinions are important to us

Personal factors

The formation of self-esteem is also influenced by a person’s individual characteristics, the uniqueness of emotions, temperament, and character.

People with a sensitive psyche worry more about their failures and about the assessments of others than those who are less emotional.

A person whose melancholic traits predominate tends to get upset even over a minor random remark and remember it for a long time.
A phlegmatic person may not even pay attention to the remark.
Closed, unsociable introverts worry less about the assessments of others than sociable extroverts. On the other hand, extroverts, due to their tendency to demonstrate behavior, often suffer from inflated self-esteem. But people who avoid people and prefer solitude often consider themselves superior to others and despise those around them who are unworthy of communicating with them.

That is, individual personality characteristics certainly influence the formation of self-esteem, but its vector is determined primarily by the social environment. There is another important factor related to a person’s assessment of his own “I”.

Level of aspiration

We all strive for something in life, we set goals for ourselves. And these goals are different: some want to earn money for a new apartment, some want to create their own thriving company, and for others a trip to the sea is the ultimate dream. The degree of complexity, difficulty of a goal or task that a person defines for himself is the level of his aspirations.

Just like self-esteem, the level of aspirations can be adequate or inadequate. Adequate is one where goals correspond to human capabilities. If a school graduate with poor knowledge and low Unified State Exam grades decides to apply to a prestigious metropolitan university, then he clearly has an inadequate, inflated level of aspirations. And when a good student refuses to enroll in a higher education institution because he is afraid of failure, then his level of aspiration is too low. Both are bad.

The level of aspirations is formed under the influence of successes and failures that accompany a person on the path of life, and, in turn, affects the formation of self-esteem. After all, an athlete, constantly setting a bar for himself that he cannot jump over, will very quickly become disappointed in his abilities and in the ability to achieve success. And a low level of aspirations does not contribute to the development of self-esteem and self-confidence.

But psychologists still believe that a low level is worse than a high level and has a bad effect on the formation of personality and its position in society. It makes a person a socially passive loser who does not strive for success.

The importance of self-esteem in a person's life

Self-esteem refers to the attitude towards oneself, one’s appearance, abilities, skills and achievements. We are evaluated not only by others, but also by ourselves. The more adequately a person perceives himself, the easier his life is, since self-esteem determines the level of success in all areas of life.

A person with low self-esteem constantly doubts his abilities, is afraid to try something new, and does not strive to take a leading position in anything. Even if he has many talents, it is difficult for him to reach his potential.

People who have too high self-esteem are not just confident in their abilities: they have an excess of self-confidence. They take on the most difficult tasks without fear, without any doubt in their abilities. If they fail to complete the task, they blame others or circumstances, but do not admit their guilt. Inadequate self-perception occurs equally in both men and women.

Self-esteem affects all areas of life:

relationships with the opposite sex, family life;
business relationships, achievements at work;
finance;
relationships with relatives, friends;
hobbies, interests.

How a person behaves in different situations depends on his attitude towards himself. Adequate self-esteem helps you achieve your goals and feel satisfied.

Types and levels of self-esteem

In psychology, there are two types of self-esteem: adequate and inadequate. Sometimes they also talk about optimal and suboptimal self-esteem, thereby emphasizing that many people tend to evaluate themselves slightly above average, and this is more the norm than a deviation. Another thing is how highly we value ourselves.

Adequate self-esteem

Adequate self-esteem, to one degree or another, correctly reflects the abilities and qualities of an individual, that is, it is a person’s idea of himself, which corresponds to the real state of affairs. Such ideas can be either with a + or a − sign, because people are not ideal. For example, when a person says that a bear stepped on his ear, this may not be a belittlement of his own abilities in music, but an adequate assessment of them.

Self-esteem influences all human behavior and his attitude towards himself and towards other people. Thus, with adequate self-esteem an individual:

correctly assesses the relationship between his desires and abilities;
sets realistic goals that he can achieve;
able to look at oneself critically from the outside;
tries to foresee the results of his actions.

In general, for a person with adequate self-esteem, the people around him are important. But he also evaluates their opinion adequately, focusing more on his own ideas about the benefits or harm of his actions.

Inadequate self-esteem

Inadequate self-esteem comes in two forms: low and high. The degree of inadequacy comes at different levels. Self-esteem at a level slightly above or slightly below average is a fairly common phenomenon, and they almost do not manifest themselves in an individual’s behavior and do not interfere with his life and interaction with others. The deviation in this case can only be determined using special psychological tests. And self-esteem that is slightly above average does not even need correction, since a person can quite deservedly respect and value himself, and self-esteem has never bothered anyone.

But it happens (and often) that self-esteem is far from optimal and significantly above or below the average level. In this case, it has a serious impact on a person’s actions and can lead to inappropriate behavior and conflicts with others.

Individual characteristics of people with high self-esteem

People with excessively high self-esteem can be quickly noticed in any team - they strive to be visible, advise everyone, lead everyone and dominate everywhere. Such people are characterized by the following characteristics:

they estimate their capabilities and their importance too highly;
they do not accept criticism, and they are irritated by other people’s opinions that do not coincide with their own;
often have a superiority complex, considering themselves to be right in everything;
emphatically independent and even arrogant;
reject the help and support of others;
blame other people or circumstances for their failures and problems;
do not notice their weaknesses or pass them off as strengths, for example, stubbornness as perseverance, and arrogance as determination;
are often distinguished by a demonstrative type of behavior, they like to perform actions for show;
They tend to be selfish and disrespectful towards others.

There is an opinion that it is better to have high self-esteem than low self-esteem. But here it all depends on the level - people who value themselves too highly can be very unpleasant.

Low self-esteem

People with a level of self-esteem significantly below average cannot always be immediately noticed, especially in a team. They do not strive to be visible and seem simply modest. But in the process of communicating with them, their far from pleasant qualities are revealed:

indecisiveness and excessive caution; dependence on the opinions of other people and the constant need for their support; the desire to shift responsibility, including for one’s actions, onto the shoulders of others; an inferiority complex and, as a consequence, excessive vulnerability, touchiness, and quarrelsomeness; excessive demands on oneself and others, perfectionism; pettiness, vindictiveness and envy; Suffering from low self-esteem, they nevertheless try to prove to everyone that they are “cool” and commit inappropriate actions.

Low self-esteem also makes people selfish, only this is a different kind of selfishness. They are so immersed in their failures and obsessed with self-pity that they do not notice the problems of their loved ones. Very often, those who have too low a level of self-esteem do not know how to respect or love.

Signs

Arrogance

It's hard not to notice him. It usually manifests itself in “stuffing out” one’s own merits as proof that those around them are not so good. And in general, they fall very far short of his level.

It can be confused with egocentrism, when a person believes that he is the most valuable in this world, which, in principle, revolves in his honor. But there are small differences: an arrogant individual simply considers himself better than others, and an egocentric person is not able to notice them.

But what is similar in both cases is the presence of a feeling of loneliness. Neither of them can build healthy relationships that bring happiness.

Closedness

He won’t let you get too close to himself, much less share his ideas, thoughts and feelings. The fact is that even though an arrogant person considers himself “cooler” than everyone else, in fact, deep inside, she experiences strong shame from the fact that in fact in some way she does not even live up to the norm.

This shame is repressed and most often not recognized. And it is precisely because of him that he has to defend himself, that is, to close himself off and “inflate” his ideality so that no one else will guess what he really is.

He has the last word

Despite their closed nature, they leave little space for the interlocutor in the conversation. Such people are usually simply not interested in listening to another. And they don’t see much point in this, because they themselves understand various issues better, of course, in their opinion.

Why do they allow themselves to teach life even to those who do not ask, interrupt, become familiar and not just share something good, but directly brag, pointing out the inferiority of those around them, which allows them to assert themselves at their expense. In general, there is one correct opinion - their opinion.

Doesn't know how to ask for help

Asking for help is akin to humiliation, to which one will not allow oneself to stoop. If they need something from other people, they will simply demand or even order. At least that's what it will look like.

Accordingly, he is also unable to apologize. Moreover, sincerely, realizing his guilt.

Fear of criticism

Such a person finds fault with the slightest shortcomings of those people who come into his field of vision only because he is afraid of their assessment and criticism. That they will be the first to notice his imperfections and other shortcomings. And so they simply do not have time to do this, in his opinion.

The fear of making a mistake causes a feeling of defenselessness and, oddly enough, uncertainty. And this all only enhances the manifestation of other signs.

High goals

Sometimes he sets unrealistic goals for himself, of course, most often without achieving them. This causes suffering and frustration. In psychology, this means unmet needs, which leads to aggressive behavior or even depression.